1. Its All About The Concept
If you are anything like me when you were little you dreamt of what your day could look like, then as we got older this dream changed, here, there and pretty much everywhere!
So when your man got down on one knee, did you suddenly realise......”Where do I even start!?!”
There are many out there who have so many ideas and themes within their styling that their wedding theme ends up looking similar to a styling jumble sale. 20 odd years of ideas, thoughts and day-dreams combined into a few rooms. You can imagine this hardly becomes the fairytale setting you were looking for.
So, the key is to narrow down your ideas to two or three amazing concepts, now, at this point take all your little ideas and fave bits and pieces and place them into the most appropriate concept.
Creative ways to do this could be through mood boards or keeping separate scrap books. I am a complete stationary nerd I adore buying pretty folders and taking on craft projects!
Once you have done this you have a few clear and concise themes. From there you pick a favourite and tailor and adjust all your ideas for this particular theme, this will then result in an obvious tone and message for the day. It may just be a colour scheme or a full blown concept such as Enchanted Forest, either way the goal is to have direction.
2. Use Your Bridal Party
When speaking to brides a common concern is how much there is to do and little time to do it. Brides feel rushed and stressed as their day approaches, leaving no room to get excited and look forward to one of the most memorable day s of your life. This is not my ideal experience for a bride, not even close, for one thing it will create worry lines & a smooth faced bride is so much prettier!
Use your bridal party, those you have chosen to be part of your wedding, such as bridesmaids, groomsmen and family. You have not picked these people to look good in the outfit, you have chosen them to be there for you, so let them.
Believe me, I am one of the biggest control freaks going, but I still think it is better for your health if nothing else, to relinquish the reins even just a little and allow others to get involved. You would be surprised how many of your friends would be eager to get stuck in with you and honoured to be included.
Divide out all those little jobs, correspondence and irritations to those around you, with clear instruction, and watch your to do list whittle down to a more manageable amount.
3. Dont Forget The Groom
Now, you would think this is a no brainer, however after being in the industry for as long as I have I can guarantee it needs addressing. The amount of times I have had to prompt the bride to introduce me before the wedding to the groom, or even just to get him on the contact details is a surprise!
The reason I think this is an important point, is the wedding is about him too. I know that he probably hasn’t dreamt of this day as long as we have ladies, and we have the rest of our lives to make it up to him, however, bare with me. Your wedding and marriage is about becoming a partnership and what better practice for the real thing than the most stressful process of planning a wedding!
The best weddings I have worked with or been too (and believe me there have been many!) they have been an amalgamation of the brides and the grooms personalities. But fusing your tastes and ideas you create a totally unique wedding experience. My heart will always sink when I speak to a bride and her first words are “I want pink tones, butterflies and lace!!!!” All I can think is the grooms poor face! I apologize if this is your vision, or perhaps your groom likes pink and frills, but for the majority of grooms they are a voice unheard or thought of.
I am one of those people that instead of watching the bride as she steps up aisle, I watch the groom. His face lighting up with love and pure un-shielded joy at the first glimpse of his bride, it’s one of the best parts of a wedding for me. I have never seen a bored groom looking down the aisle. He cares about the wedding, so let him into the concept and style too, let the wedding show both of you.
4. Be True To Your Fairy Tale
This I cannot stress more, it is so important to your day and to your planning process too. Start out with this in mind and you will have an easier time of it, I promise!
I have spent so much time saying this phrase over and over but say with me now
“It is my day”
This day isn’t for your mum, or your mother in-law, it isn’t for your sister or for your best friend. This is a day for you and your partner, you are choosing to share this with all your loved ones, but it is still yours, your dreams, your fairy tale ending whatever that may be. If you want an blue colour scheme, and your best friend says blue is out this season, SO WHAT! Who cares if your wedding colour is in fashion, that changes faster than you can click your fingers! The important thing is YOU like it, the same goes with everything else, if your gran doesn’t like beans but it’s your fave veg of all time, eat the beans!!!!
There will be so many times everyone will try to instil their own opinion & style on you, and it’s really important to take a breath, take a moment and remember who’s day it is. They are not going to be looking through the pictures, wishing you had gone for the uber chocolate extravaganza of a cake, while your dairy intolerant mother in law told you the dairy free cupcakes were a much better option!!
5. Be Timeless
This one is personal, but I think its important to think about while styling your big day. I want you to use your imagination here guys, imagine you are 60, it’s your anniversary, you are sitting with your husband looking through your wedding pictures. Your remembering how happy you were on that day, how in love you were, how much you danced the night away, these are beautiful thoughts. However you do not want to open the album and wince at the very “fashion forward” black wedding dress you thought was so on trend at the time, and cringe at the ostentatious white horse you arrived on because that famous actress did for her wedding.
Be crazy, be unique, have an out of this world theme, but don’t do it because its in fashion, or everyone else is doing it. Do it because you love it, you are going to remember this day forever and you want to know that you aren’t going to look back with regret.
Choose everything because you adore it, choose your styling concept because you have day dreamed about it for hours while you should have been working! Choose it because you can’t imagine your day without it, under no circumstance should you choose it because someone told you “You have to, It’s so in right now!”.
So in conclusion, these tips are more on how to approach your wedding instead of how to style I suppose but I don’t think you can do one without the other. And if you’re really struggling with your styling, you know where I am,